Don't second guess your intuition

Wise Words from a Self Defense Instructor

"I give girls permission to fight back. Too many times they second-guess themselves," she said. "This person wants to harm you, so you have to have a plan of action." 

"We want to give you a skill set that is easy to learn ... and it doesn't take years," Byars said of the program. "It's just about getting away." 

Original article: http://www.theleafchronicle.com/usatoday/article/38825403?odyssey=mod%7Cnewswell%7Ctext%7CFRONTPAGE%7Cs

Image: http://www.projectinspireonline.com/intuition.htm

Prevention Is Way More Important Than Teaching Them How To Fight

Lt. Heidi Scott 

"What I tell them is that prevention is way more important than teaching them how to fight," said Scott. "To be aware of their surroundings, not to be distracted. Now a days there's so many distractions, they want to text and social media and things like that, even when they're driving. They just need to be aware of their surroundings." 


Original article: http://www.wltx.com/news/article/179583/2/Teenage-Girls-Get-A-Lesson-in-Self-Defense

How to handle parent bullies, when a parent is a bully

Today Show--How to handle parent bullies, when a parent is a bully

Guides for parents to help them help their child, that's being bullied

These are excellent guides for parents to help them help their child, that's being bullied

"Call it Safe, A parent guide for dealing with

bullying in elementary schools"

To download the entire PDF go to the following link

http://www.bced.gov.bc.ca/sco/elem_callsafe.pdf 

"SUGGESTIONS FOR PARENTS WHEN DEALING WITH BULLYING"
To download the entire PDF go to the following link http://www.bullypolice.org/dealing_with_bullying.pdf 

How to react to a bully---Tracie Arlington

How to react to a bully---Tracie Arlington

Signs of a child being bullied--Jodee Blanco

Jodee Blanco author of 

"Please Stop Laughing at Us: One Survivor’s Extraordinary Quest to Prevent School Bullying" 

Signs of a child being bullied

Teaching children how to defend themselves against predators--Tracie Arlington on Dr Phil Show

Teaching children how to defend themselves against predators

Tracie Arlington on Dr Phil Show

Original link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZHH64Wp2YI 

How to Teach Your Kids Basic Self-Defense

"When teaching kids the basics of self-defense, instill self-worth and teach them never to initiate harming others. Teach kids appropriate self-defense techniques..."  By John Graden  

Original link: http://www.ehow.com/video_4961763_teach-kids-basic-selfdefense.html 

Stalkers become so obsessed with their target that they are willing to accept any relationship even a negative one--Gavin de Becker (part 5and 6)

For those of you who have been following the videos on my blog, of Gavin de Becker, here are the last two from his interview with Prime Time Live, just click on the link (part 5 or 6)

Prime Time Live - Gift of Fear (Part 5)

Prime Time Live - Gift of Fear (Part 6)

It's Ok To Be Rude--Gavin de Becker (part 4)

It's ok to be rude

Prime Time Live - Gift of Fear (Part 4)--Gavin de Becker 

The Winner of the Free Drawing for Lethbridge Alberta Region

Drum roll please the winner of the Free Drawing for Lethbridge Alberta Region is----Jen Bennett

How to Recognize Some One Who Is Dangerous Before It's Too Late--Gavin de Bcker (part 3)

How to Recognize Some One Who Is Dangerous Before It's Too Late

Prime Time Live - Gift of Fear (Part 3)--Gavin de Becker

"With practice we can develop sensitivity to intuition which we are often taught to ignore"--Gavin de Becker (part 2)

"With practice we can develop sensitivity to intuition which we are often taught to ignore"

Prime Time Live - Gift of Fear (Part 2)--Gavin de Becker

"Intuition is the corner stone, the center of peoples safety"--Gavin de Becker (part1)

"Intuition is the corner stone, the center of peoples safety" 

         Prime Time Live- Gift of Fear (Part 1)--Gavin de Becker

US advisers teach self defense to Afghan air force women

US advisers teach self defense to Afghan air force women
Story by Staff Sgt. Nadine Barclay 

KABUL, Afghanistan - Advisers from the 439th and 738th Air Expeditionary Advisory Squadrons recently taught a class to four Afghan air force female personnel about the importance of using self-defense to escape a violent situation.

The training prepared the female students physically and mentally for what they could experience if placed in a dangerous scenario. The students learned that true self defense is more than just personal protection and learning a set of techniques to escape from an attacker.

Air Force Master Sgt. Kenneth Tatrai, 738th AEAS Pohantoon-e-Hawayee lead security forces adviser and self-defense instructor, discussed the potential benefits that would come from learning self defense.

“I think that it’s important for everyone to know how and when to defend themselves and to have the confidence to do so,” said Tatrai. “Even though we are in a more civil world there are people who look for weaker men and women, so it’s extremely important to have the tools for self-defense and to know when to use them.”

The course consisted of the basic principles of personal security and self-defense in order to help the students mitigate risk in their lives whenever possible.

Although fake yells and laughter filled the training room, the students used strike pads to demonstrate how they would react. The training included strikes, break holds and demonstrations of the sensitive areas of the body to aim for when engaged with an attacker.

Afghan air force Lt. Arezoo Azizi said she appreciated the opportunity to attend the class and enjoyed working with the mentors in a relaxed and fun environment.

“All the moves we learned during the class were my favorite,” said Azizi. “Self-defense is very good for all women to learn especially the women in Afghanistan and I appreciate the mentors for offering us something we don’t normally have.”

Tatrai said that he was very impressed with the students and that by using their new found skills the Afghan women will be better prepared to respond to an aggressive assailant.

“It was a good class and we had great students. I definitely feel that they learned a lot today and are better prepared to defend themselves if the situation presents itself,” said Tatrai.

Among the participating advisers, one particularly shared the women’s concerns about size and capability against someone twice their size.

Capt. Vanessa Vanden Bout, a 439th AEAS force support officer and gender integration person of contact for the Afghan air force, that works closely with the women stated that she was excited to give back to the students.

“The ladies expressed interest in learning new skills, and this is one that I thought was important for them to have in their tool kit,” said Vanden Bout. “It increases their self confidence, and also increases the likelihood that they can escape safely from a dangerous situation.”

Vanden Bout, who organized the training, stepped up and demonstrated exactly how the training would work if attacked for real by taking down her large simulated attacker.

“Many women aren't as strong as men, making it easier for them to be subdued and potentially injured. Our Afghan ladies are smaller in stature and are fairly slender so we wanted to teach them that you don’t have to be the biggest or the strongest to fight back and protect yourself,” said Vanden Bout.

Adeb said the class alleviated some of her fear of being in an assault situation.

“I feel more confident in what I learned and in myself. Today has given me the confidence to know that I can really do this if I had too,” said Afghan air force Lt. Nafisa Adeb. “I know I’ll remember today and what I learned when I need it.”

Photo by Staff Sgt. Nadine Barclay

Advisers with the 738th Air Expeditionary

Advisory Squadron, Pohantoon-e-Hawayee

security forces advisers and self-defense 

instructors, Master Sgt. Kenneth Tatrai and

Tech. Sgt. James Hargrove demonstrate

a basic strike move to female Afghan air

force personnel during a woman's 

self-defense class, Kabul International

Airport, Feb. 29, 2012. The training was

 held to prepare the students physically

and mentally for what they may experience

if placed in a dangerous scenario.

Read more: http://www.dvidshub.net/news/84854/us-advisers-teach-self-defense-afghan-air-force-women#.T1oTCDEgefc#ixzz1od80Ba1O

Any part of your body an be a weapon

Any part of your body an be a weapon 

Smartphone picture uploads can reveal the location of your children's home, school, and play areas

Smartphone picture uploads can reveal the location of your children's home, school, and play areas

By: Russ Ptacek

KANSAS CITY, Missouri - Pictures you’ve e-mailed or uploaded from your smartphone could be leaking location information threatening your safety or that of your children.

“Perfect, just like that,” cooed NBC Action News staffer Susanne McDonald to her four-year-old daughter Laine as she took a series of smartphone pictures. “Ready? One, two, three! Good Girl.”

We loaned McDonald and Laine a smartphone to see just how threatening a seemingly innocent snapshot could be once loaded online.

Police are concerned

“It's frightening,” said Leawood School Resource Police Officer Mark Chudik when we showed him what we had uncovered.

We combed Twitter and sites like Facebook , Craig's List, and Photobucket .

We searched by entering the names of area cities.  We easily identified the home addresses and play areas of children whose pictures were posted by their parents.

“That is legitimately terrifying,” said McDonald when we showed her information we obtained from pictures she posted of daughter Laine.

It's a new and frightening threat to parents. 

The full risk is even an unknown to many internet crime experts, like Chudik, who said he’d never seen private information shared so quickly in such an unknown manner.

He calls the hidden smartphone data today's biggest risk online.

“It's probably going to be number one for a while,” Chudik said.

Technique involves free, easily available software

Chudik used a free browser add-on to click on pictures of four-year-old Laine.

He not only found her home when he clicked on a picture of her bedroom, but located her day care, favorite fast food shop, and the specific part of the park where she plays.

“The fact that they found the bedroom is terrifying,” McDonald said. “Scary, like terrifying. Especially as a parent because of the fact that you can see the exact place of it.” 

We searched online servers by local cities creating a menu of nearby children and their locations.

With one online bedroom picture, we were able to find the home of two Olathe brothers.

When we went to their home to warn their parents, they declined to comment, but did change the settings on their 

Photobucket account to private.

How it works 

At UMKC, computer science Professor Deep Medhi says smartphones leave a high-tech invisible trail using the same geotracking technology that enables the social website Foursquare and handheld map apps.

“Exactly like in your GPS device in your car,” Medhi said. “When you do it, it can tell you exactly where it is.”

Medhi showed how the easily-obtained software can translate geotagged photos, uploaded or linked from popular websites, into maps.

“Exactly that spot where that picture was taken,” Medhi said.

How to deactivate your geotagging

The site icanstalku.com reposts pictures from unwitting Twitter users in real time, translating their photos into actual addresses and maps.

The site also lists a how to deactivate geotagging on the iPhone, Blackberry with GPS, Google Android, and Palm WebOS.

The site recommends restricting which applications can access GPS marking, or turning off location services altogether, in your smartphone settings.

“You want to be able to do it almost on a picture basis,” Medhi said.

“I don't think you can think of anything worse than a stranger knowing all that information,” said Officer Chudik.

Experts say you can still be perfectly safe by turning off GPS settings before taking pictures you plan to post online and by keeping your online photo servers restricted to private.

Read more: http://www.kshb.com/dpp/news/local_news/investigations/smartphone-picture-uploads-can-reveal-the-location-of-your-children's-home,-school,-and-play-areas#ixzz1od1uHDwi

Learning to Trust Your Instincts

The most important things to remember about self defense is awareness (self and environment)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts---Oprah interview with a victim and Gavin de Becker

Helen Reddy performs her classic "I Am Woman"

Another empowering song

Helen Reddy performs her classic "I Am Woman" 

When this song came out (1975) the UN declared 1975 to be International Women's Year

The Right of Women and Girls to Live Free of Violence

In celebration of International Woman's

Day!

Speech Delivered by UN Women Deputy Executive Director John Hendra at the Flagging off Ceremony of the Kilimanjaro Initiative, 5 March 2012

…..at centre stage an issue that is one of the critical human rights challenges of our time – the right of women and girls to live free of violence.

….the fundamental universal right of women and girls to live free of violence, that in 2008 the UN Secretary General launched the UNite Say No Campaign to End Violence Against Women and Girls. African Governments and peoples subscribed overwhelmingly to the Say No Campaign….

It was also in this same spirit that African Heads of State and Government took up the clarion call to indeed Unite as a Continent to intensify efforts to end violence against women and girls in January 2010 with the inclusion of a Africa UNite component.

……a culmination of all these efforts and is important not only for Africa but elsewhere as violence against women and girls is a universal problem that governments and societies the world over face. It has many facets, it has many forms and it happens to different individuals in varying degrees. What is common though is that it is a gross violation of human rights and has no place in any of our homes, in any of our communities or in larger society.

Violence against women and girls is pervasive across Africa. In the sub-Saharan region, between 13% and 45% of women suffer assault by intimate partners during their lifetimes. Recent studies from the region show that up to 47% of girls in primary or secondary school report sexual abuse or harassment from male teachers or classmates, and over 3 million girls in Africa are at risk of female genital mutilation. Evidence abounds on the effects of conflict and how rape has been used as a weapon of war.

It is these statistics that have to move us to action. And it is these statistics that must make an imprint on our social conscience to stand together and take action.

To help raise greater awareness of these challenges, late last year, UN Women’s Executive Director, Michelle Bachelet, announced “16 Steps to End Violence Against Women”. Included among these is an ambitious but critical global drive over the coming decade focused on advancing universal access to services for all women and girl survivors of violence. In situations of violence and oppression, women must have somewhere to turn for their safety and protection, for their access to health care, and for their access to justice.

Sadly, violence against women remains one of the most pervasive violations of human rights and yet one of the least prosecuted crimes. Impunity is still the norm, rather than the exception.

Violence against women and girls is a heavy burden for all. It has devastating costs and consequences, on the lives of those affected but also to societies and economies as a whole. Such violence translates into millions of dollars of lost wages and productivity and additional health, counseling, police and legal costs to already overstretched public budgets every year.

We must all do more – much more – to end the violence. As UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-Moon recently put it, ‘Our challenge is to ensure that the message of ‘zero tolerance’ is heard far and wide. To do that, we must engage all society – and especially young people.”……

Ms. Rosie Tebogo Motene, a South African actress and television presenter, has said (and I quote): “Our inner strength can be compared to a candle burning bright, When that candle goes out the light is gone. Our strength and core are diminished — Abuse causes that. Never let anyone blow out your candle; Never allow an abuser to diminish you”.

To read the entire speech

http://www.unwomen.org/2012/03/speech-delivered-by-un-women-deputy-executive-director-john-hendra-at-the-flagging-off-ceremony-of-the-kilimanjaro-initiative/

Image: http://www.discoveryhouseblog.ca/tag/family-violence/ 

Self-Defense Instructors Say to Stay Aware

Rochester, N.Y. -- Self-defense instructor Ryan Fredericks says there's no set way to handle an attack, but with proper training you can be prepared.

“You definitely have to have a mind set and a skill set to back what you're going to do on the street as far as protecting yourself,” says Fredericks, who runs Close Quarters Combat in Rochester.

He says the first thing everyone can do is pay attention to what's going on around you.

“Don't fumble on your cell phone text messaging or calling anybody,” Fredericks says. “Have your keys ready to get into your vehicle, look around look under your vehicle... Make sure no one is following you.”

He says if someone does approach you with a weapon, give them what they want, but don't let them take you to the next location.

“You basically want to do everything that they say in the hopes that giving them your money, your wallet, your purse, is going to be enough,” says Fredericks. “If they're looking to take you somewhere, do not go and put up a fight.”

Fredericks says only with proper self defense training should you try to disarm someone, but if you do find yourself fighting back, he says going for the groin doesn't always work and that there are better spots you can target.

“You might be grabbing the sides of someone’s skin, their love handles, gripping onto their neck, pulling an ear…. Go to the face. Don't worry about the groin because it's not necessarily going to do that much damage until you're in a position of dominance.”

Reported by: Edward Moody
Email: emoody@13wham.com
Last Update: 10/08 7:46 pm
http://tinyurl.com/yfyt3p6

Victim of a sexual assault

If you are the victim of a sexual assault:

• Seek medical treatment immediately, even if you don’t feel you have any physical injuries; you may have internal injuries, which require treatment. You can also receive medication to reduce risk of sexually transmitted diseases and, if you choose, medication to prevent pregnancy.
• Do not wash, change clothes, comb your hair, or wipe yourself after urinating. Even if you do not wish to pursue legal action against the perpetrator, by collecting evidence, you give yourself the option of pressing charges in the future.
• Seek counseling or support from someone you trust or a mental health professional. After a sexual assault, many women are in shock and may feel fine and able to “cope,” but there can be a delayed reaction to the assault.

National Center for Victims of Crime: 1-800-FYI-CALL (1-800-394-2255)
http://www.ncvc.org/ncvc/Main.aspx


Information came from the following link
http://bgh.kaleidahealth.org/services/services_display.asp?SID=350&CID=3

Best Self Defense

"You're best defense is to look at your lifestyle, figure out what kind of threats you are most likely to face, and implement strategies that reduce the chances of them happening." 

Original Link

http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/self-defense.htm

Quote

Train for what happens most and you will be able to handle most of what happens. Marc MacYoung

Awareness, De-escalation, Physically Defending

Awareness

Awareness is defending yourself by avoiding danger altogether by thinking ahead, or making good decisions. Examples include parking in a well-lit area, not wearing music headphones while jogging (so you can use your sense of hearing to pay attention to your surroundings), or looking under your car/in the backseat before entering to ensure there is no one waiting for you.


Due to its non-physical nature, awareness is emphasized heavily in women's self defense classes where it is assumed that the attacker will probably be larger and stronger than the victim.


Original link:
Awareness: http://tinyurl.com/mah5w

De-escalation

De-escalation is the use of voice, tone, and body language to calm a potentially violent situation before violence actually ensues.

Orginal Link:

De-escalation: http://tinyurl.com/mah5w

Physically Defending

****LEARN TO TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS****

If you choose to run away from your attacker, be careful to make sure to run to a safe place, where other people are that can possibly help you. 

****If you do run your attacker will be behind you and you will not see what and where they are****

****There is the possibility of your attacker being able to out run you****

Men and women have different socializations. A man expects a man to stand up to them, and an assailant will use this to talk the man into a fight. Men who choose to attack women are cowards but dangerous. A man does not expect a woman to stand up to them, and a male assailant will often back down when she does.


Original Link:
http://tinyurl.com/mah5w

Environment

Always be aware of your environment. Make sure that you don't have any distractions.

The other day I was watching a woman walking near the local University. She had an ipod in her ear, and a cell phone on her other ear. She was looking down while walking also.

One of the higher locations of occurrence of attacks for women are universities, hospitals, and malls.

This woman had too many distractions while walking at a high concurrence location. What advice would I give this woman or any woman walking on a university? 1) don't walk alone during late hours---when there aren't many people around, 2) never wear an ipod, you can't hear what's going around you. 3) keep your cell phone away unless you are in immediate danger, again it takes your attention from the environment. 4) look up while you are walking. Walk with self confidence, even if you have to pretent you have cofidence. Look at every one in the eye when walking past them and say hello casially. By looking at the person you will be able to identify them. Would be attackers are looking for victims---victims aren't people who walk with cofidence. By saying hello you have also made yourself human in the other persons eyes--the would be attacker doesn't look at their victims as humans but as prey.

Trust Your Inner Voice

Have you ever felt weird around a person and didn't understand why? I would suggest that you listen to that feeling---it has never led me astray when I have listened. When I haven't listened to it, I've gotten into situations that were not pleasant.

If you feel odd about going a certain way home, listen to that inner voice, choose a different way.

If you feel like some one is following you listen to your inner voice and go to the nearest police station---make sure you do not go home. If you go home, you will be leading your stalker to where you live.

If you don't feel good about going to an event, even if all your friends are going to be there, listen to your inner voice, and don't go.

If you have a feeling of distrust toward a person, listen to your inner voice and stay away from them, and don't share information with them.

If you get into an elevator and a person in the elevator makes you feel "yucky"---listen to your inner voice. Get off the elevator at the next stop, make sure they know you are aware of them, don't get on the elevator...etc.

Protecting Your Teen

In 2009 Dr. Phil spoke about the topic "Sexting". Sexting is sending nude pictures via text message (using cell phones).

This topic is not just on Dr. Phil unfortunately, it's becoming a common practice among teens, 20% of teens polled in a national survey.

Besides loosing a persons reputation the teens that participate in this are also facing felony charges for being involved in child porn and being registered as a sex offender---which will never come off of their records.

Some articles written about this topic
CBS News
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/01/15/national/main4723161.shtml

ABC News
http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/WorldNews/story?id=6456834&page=1

NBC News
http://www.nbc15online.com/mostpopular/story/What-Parents-Need-to-Know-about-Sexting/f-O-_XPiYkyUioJbN3q0ng.cspx

Fox 31 News (video)
http://www.mysouthwestga.com/news/video.aspx?id=272281

Pyramid of Personal Safety

The way to march a thousand miles 
and still win the battle, is make
the other side march it.

There is no reason to live in fear of crime and violence. There is however reason to take reasonable precautions. And in doing so, you will have deterred most criminals from choosing you as their victim.

The reason is simple, there are thousands of people around who are easier and safer targets. The harder you make it for the criminal to victimize you, the more likely he is to go ply his trade elsewhere. You won't have stopped the criminal from being a criminal, but you will have stopped him from choosing you as a victim.

With this in mind, personal safety can be viewed as a pyramid. Each level not only increases your safety, but builds upon the level under it to create a cohesive and consistent whole.

To use the pyramid correctly start from the bottom and work your way up, all of these steps are in this blog.

To read the entire article go to the following link
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html

Physical self-defense

Physical self-defense

the last ditch effort. If it gets to this point through all the other levels, it has been forced here. You are justified to do what it takes to stop him. While some people choose not to participate in use of force in order to defend themselves, others have no such qualms. Either choice carries responsibilities. 

Physical self-defenseis not about fighting, it’s about not being hurt by violence. Nor is it about being fearless. It is not necessarily studying the martial arts nor buying a gun, it is doing what you have to do to keep from being hurt, raped, robbed or killed. And then dealing with the authorities and psychological cost afterwards

Knowing that personal safety involves all these things, we want you to think about the quote at the top of this page. The one about making your enemy march the thousand miles. In essence, the pyramid of personal safety makes it so someone else has to do all kinds of work to climb that pyramid in order to attack you. Not only is that climb difficult (and therefore makes it easier to attack someone else), but it gives you all the warning in the world to mentally prepare yourself for what you need to do in order to stay safe. The best way to stay safe is to convince the enemy that it's too much trouble to march a thousand miles and then to risk a battle he's likely to lose.

To read the entire article to go the following link
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html

Verbal boundary enforcement

Verbal boundary enforcement communication. It is letting a would-be assailant know that you are aware of what is occurring and that you are committed to doing whatever it takes to protect yourself.

This is not threatening nor blustering; it is a clear cut message for him to "get off mah land." And that failure to do so will have unpleasant results. This is being assertive, not aggressive. You are doing what it takes to get him out of your boundaries, not chasing him down the street. Before you vocalize: Know how far you are willing to go

To read the entire article to go the following link
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html

Knowledge of self-worth and boundaries

Essential to not becoming the victim of crime and violence. Even if you have decided that you are not willing to use physical violence to defend yourself, until this point the pyramid still works. It is however, important to realize that no matter what your decision about using physical self-defense to protect yourself, that you have come to a crossroads. A crossroads that requires mental preparation to navigate.

Aside from the obvious implications, when we use the terms knowledge of self-worth and boundaries, we also are including knowing how you think, the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness and how you are coming across.

As for self-worth, it is a commitment to yourself. It is the knowledge that neither you nor your loved ones can afford you to be victimized. It is also knowing when you are justified to tell someone to "back off" and just as importantly when to stop! Which brings us into the boundaries issue.

When you are dealing with a potential assailant, you must remember you are being confronted by a totally self-absorbed person, who is not afraid to use violence to get his way. The last thing you want to do isanger, fear fear take over or invade his space! Any of which will provoke him. If you do he is more likely to become violent. If you don’t know where to stop, you can provoke a situation that could have ended without violence.

In the same vein, you cannot hide behind avowed pacifism while still being verbally violent.

To read the entire article go to the following link
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html

Maneuvering and positioning

Knowing where you don’t want to be. There are positions from where an assailant can (and probably will) successfully attack you. If he (and his cohorts) can achieve these positions, your chances of effectively defending yourself are slim to none. And Slim left town. The violence will be swift, intense and aimed at your weak spots. Unless you are willing to commit extreme physical violence in self-defense do not allow this situation to develop. Positioning is a strategy game. It is the criminal trying to put you where he wants you and you moving so he can't.

The thing is this game is very real and very dangerous, it is however, not apparent on the surface. We have a term we use that describes this condition: "shadow dance." And that means something is going on that everybody knows is occurring, but nobody talks about it openly. Foreign embassies are prime examples of shadow dancing. On the surface, they are for diplomatic relations, commerce and to assist nationals traveling between countries. However, integral to their very foundation is spying, both the committing and preventing the host country from doing the same. So while everyone from the ambassador himself to the lowest secretary is either doing it, or has been trained to prevent it, nobody talks about it or admits it is happening. What's happening isn't innocent, but it is hidden behind a facade.

Criminals engage in shadowdancing all the time. They are pretending to be doing something else. If they blatantly display their intentions too early their "prey" will either elude them or have time to successfully defend themselves. Therefore the criminal most often tries to hide his intent until it is too late. This need for subterfuge can be turned against them however.

As they quietly try to jockey you into position, you just as quietly slip away. What are they going to say, "Hold still so I can rob you?" Criminals most often rely on their victims not knowing the "game is afoot" long before a weapon is displayed (by then it is too late). But by you knowing what the criminal needs and not letting him develop it you nonviolently protect yourself from crime and violence.

To read the entire article go to the following link
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html

Habits

Actions taken daily to ensure your safety. They are simple acts you train yourself to do that significantly decrease the chances of a criminal choosing you, or your property, as his target.

They can range from remembering to enable your "walk-away" security measures (i.e., locking doors, windows and closing your drapes when you leave), never leaving your car running and unattended, to not leaving valuables in plain sight on your car seat, to looking around when you enter a fringe area or before you reach your car Such habits are not difficult to ingrain and, within a week or two, become automatic.

The reason they are effective is that they either remove items of value from sight, deny easy access or complicate things for the criminal. Moreover, they give you early warning that something is wrong. This is essential for foiling the criminal's attempt to develop his plansunnoticed and without opposition.

to read the entire article go to the following link
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html